Being single in your 20s these days, is just as common as hearing about the Kardashians on the news. Unless you were lucky enough to have met your current beau in 10th grade Geometry, chances are you’ve been a victim of a less than desirable dating disaster or two.
Has hookup culture ruined courtship for good?
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An article published by Vanity Fair in early September, tries to find the root of the issue. Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse” challenges the idea that courtship is still alive.
“I call it the Dating Apocalypse,” says a woman in New York, aged 29. As the polar ice caps melt and the earth churns through the Sixth Extinction, another unprecedented phenomenon is taking place, in the realm of sex. Hookup culture, which has been percolating for about a hundred years, has collided with dating apps, which have acted like a wayward meteor on the now dinosaur-like rituals of courtship. “We are in uncharted territory” when it comes to Tinder et al., says Justin Garcia, a research scientist at Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. “There have been two major transitions” in heterosexual mating “in the last four million years,” he says. “The first was around 10,000 to 15,000 years ago, in the agricultural revolution, when we became less migratory and more settled,” leading to the establishment of marriage as a cultural contract. “And the second major transition is with the rise of the Internet.”
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The blame game
The article says that dating has become trivial with apps like Tinder, Okcupid and Happn. If you’re unfamiliar with any of these apps, they’re pretty much just people aggregators, using only pictures and locations to find users their “perfect match.”
Though these apps do make “hooking up” a lot easier and more accessible, we can’t blame them for the lack of courtship found in dating recently.
These dating apps do exactly what they say they’ll do. They put you in contact with the person you like, if that person happens to like you back. Once in contact with your match, it’s your responsibility to determine where the relationship will go.
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Tips to app dating success
Some tips to dating safely and successfully on these sites are:
- Have a nice friendly picture of yourself.
- Set clear boundaries on what you will and will not do.
- Look for people who are looking to find the same kind of relationship you are.
- Don’t take it too seriously.
- Have fun!
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It'll all work out
It seems like we are at the climax of hookup culture, no pun intended. Keep in mind that the chances of you meeting your future husband on any of these apps are very small.
My advice to you is to go out, enjoy life and when you least expect it, you’ll meet the perfect person for you! Cliche, I know!
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