Love is love. That’s something I’ve come to realize in the last few weeks, as we prepare to attend our first gay wedding as a family.
We’ve known the couple for a very long time. We’ve been their through all of their ups and downs. And now that I prepare to explain to my six year old that they are getting married — it’s not as hard as I thought it was going to be. And I am sure this will be the first of many gay weddings we will have the pleasure of attending now that gay marriage is legal in all 50 states.
This couple, our dear neighbors and friends, have been together since college just like my husband and I. They wanted to get married years ago, but couldn’t because of law that prevented them from making their union official in the eyes of the state. This made it difficult to receive healthcare and many other benefits afforded to other couples who could get married freely at any time.
But when my son asked how could Ray and Robert get married if they are both men, I knew this was my chance. My chance to explain gay marriage without all the politican background and big words that marred so much of what others heard on the news and from other people. This was simple. And to the mind of a six year old it was no brainer. Ray and Robert love each other. Our heart chooses who we love, and they chose each other. They are getting married and we are going to the party to celebrate. Isn’t that fun? And there you have it. I explained gay marriage to my child in less than five minutes and we were better for it.
It is with this next generation that we instill a sense of understanding and accpetance and I hope that I did that.