Let’s talk about equal parenting. Is it a thing in your household? Two parent household means two parents sharing the family responsibilities equally. Does this sound like your home? Yeah, right!
Let’s see if this sounds a little more familiar:
-Parent 1 thinks Junior should join the swim team. Junior tries out and makes the team. Parent 2 registers the child, drives them to practice and all swim meets. #equalparenting
-The baby has a doctor’s appointment but both parents have to be at work. Parent 1 has a meeting but Parent 2 has a slow day. Parent 2 leaves to work and Parent 1 has to take the morning off to go to the doctor. #equalparenting
-Child #2 forgot to mention that their science project is due in the morning. Parent 1 goes to sleep while Parent 2 stays up all night working on said project. #equalparenting
Ok, so some of these may or may not have happened in my household (more than once) but notice how I changed up the faults by Parent 1 and Parent 2. Both parents.
I really thought we were the only ones that struggled until I saw this video from The Breakwomb (by the way: funniest women on YouTube right now!!):
Parenting is hard. Parenting is complicated and honestly, we both mess up a lot. Maybe that’s where it becomes equal. The definition of equal parenting would technically be an exact 50/50 split of duties between both parents. However, I only see this happening if both parents stay home and there was an actual contract splitting up duties evenly.
Equal parenting is a concept and would be a dream come true but honestly, if you, as a parent feel you are doing too much, ask for help. Keep those lines of communication open. Trust each other and your parenting methods. You can both handle the work, you just have to make an effort!