It is essential for children to know what healthy relationships look like and the best example of a relationship that they can witness in life is that of their parents. It is very important for children to grow up knowing that healthy and loving relationships do exist and that they can also look forward to enjoying this experience later on in life. The power of example is strong and if you want your kids to choose healthy partners when they are adults, give them the best example of a caring and respectful relationship.
Even if you have gone through a divorce, you can still set a healthy example for your child. You can show your kids that even though your love didn’t last, that you are still able to communicate with each other and treat each other with respect.
Too many kids are exposed to unhealthy relationships as they grow up and this in turn, they choose unhealthy matches for themselves when they are older. Give your child the best start in life when it comes to building friendships and loving relationships with other people.
By All Means Avoid Name Calling
Whatever you do, don’t put down your partner and call them names in front of your children. Kids go through enough name calling and bullying within their younger years and seeing their parents hurt each other in the same manner is damaging. If your child listens as you put down their mother, father or step-parent, they will understand that name calling is ok and may start doing it with their peers at school.
Healthy Relationships Are Loving Relationships
When you are feeling love towards your partner, show and tell them. Show your love by holding hands and hugging when in front of your kids. This will show them that expressing your love is healthy. Children that witness this type of love and care in the home have been shown to turn to relationships that offer nurturing and caring later down the road. While many kids will get grossed out when their parents or guardians share a peck on the lips, they will love being around their parents when they are showing their love.
If you have a heated argument, try to keep it out of ear shot or ask your kids to leave the room. Kids should not be around when there are adult arguments going on. They don’t need to hear words said out of anger that will most likely be regretted later. If you end up having an argument with your kids present, make sure it stays clean. Do not insult your partner, share private matters that are only for adult ears and by all means do not allow verbal or physical abuse to occur.
Love is an amazing feeling that you will want your kids to experience one day when they are adults and the only way they will know what healthy relationships look like is through your example while they are young.