Pregnant with another baby and not sure how to tell the kids? Whether they are your kids or your step kids, it may be difficult to break the news. You may be nervous there will be mixed feelings among the kids such as fear, jealousy, anger, resentment and sadness. These are very normal emotions for kids and families expecting another baby to experience. There are a few easier ways to tell the kids that you are expecting another child and you never know, it may actually end up going much smoother than you think.
Don’t Leave It Too Late: Be Honest with Them
Avoid disappointment by telling the kids you are pregnant before you start to show. Many kids will not be aware that you are showing at 4 or 5 months, but if you leave it to 7 or 8 months to tell them, they may already know and feel betrayed that you have told them after the fact.
Educate Your Kids About Pregnancy
If you have younger kids that don’t understand pregnancy, try reading them books such as, ‘I’m going to have a new sister’ or ‘I’m going to be a big brother or sister’. This will help them understand the situation that is happening.
Talk to Them Directly
Ask your kids how they feel about having a new brother or sister. Don’t be surprised if they say they are not happy or if they show upset over it. Some kids are actually really excited to have a new sibling or new addition to the family and cannot wait for them to arrive. You never know how they feel about the new change in their family unit, but it is best to
communicate and talk about it openly and freely.
Allow Them Their Feelings
Some kids may feel threatened by the idea of a new sibling. Maybe it’s because they don’t want to lose their role as the family baby or maybe it is because they don’t want someone stealing their toys and clothes. Either way, allow your child to express what they feel and get everything off their chest. This will allow room for future excitement.
Give Them Responsibility
Many kids love the idea of being a big brother or big sister. Tell them that they get to watch out for their new brother or sister and that this little sibling will look up to them as they grow. This gives your kids a sense of confidence in their ability to take care of someone little who needs them.
You never know which way the announcement will go, but even though the kids may seem upset now during the pregnancy or if they are upset when baby arrives, know it will pass. Family change isn’t easy for everyone, but the more kids know before a major life event such as a new baby happens, the easier they will find it when baby arrives.