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Are you guilty of oversharing on social media? Read this before your next post.

8 Nov 2013 – 02:38 PM EST

I have been a blabbermouth my whole life. I lack the filter that others have that tells them when to stop talking before they put their foot in their mouth. Research shows oversharing on social media is easy to do because the lack of face-to-face contact makes people feel confident and forget about the need for privacy.

I’ve certainly shared too much online….more than a handful of times. Because my husband and daughter aren’t as open as I am, I have to work hard not to betray their privacy. Here are some rules I’ve set up for myself.

NEVER share:

Unflattering shots of others.

The Golden Rule applies here. You delete unflattering shots of yourself, so give your pals the same courtesy.

Information that isn’t directly yours.

My friend sent me a message that she was going to be back in town and asked if we could get together. I excitedly posted that I couldn’t wait to see her as my status update. She quickly sent me a second message asking me to delete it because the visit was meant to be a surprise for her mother-in-law.


Even celebrities have been caught outing pregnancies or upcoming movie roles of pals before the friend made the announcement themselves.

Always ask if info is okay to pass on.

Anything you are asked not to share.

I took photos of my daughter and her friend recently. They were gorgeous, but her friend asked me not to post them. So I didn’t.

News that could embarrass someone else.

I admit it was a struggle for me not to share when my daughter got her first period. Such a big milestone – but one that would have traumatized her if I sent it out to the world.

Naked or partially naked photos. Period.

The Internet is not the place to put nude photos of your child – even adorable baby and toddler shots. That little one is going to grow up someday and chances are they won’t be pleased that their naked booty is in cyberspace for all eternity. Go ahead and take the photos and torture your kids with them when they grow up if you want, but keep them in your own offline albums.

The same is true for racy shots of yourself. Remember your boss, your pastor, or your child’s kindergarten teacher could see them! If you are compelled to post them, control who sees them in the privacy settings.

It’s also important to check your social network settings to ensure you aren’t unknowingly posting info, including your location, automatically. Facebook is notorious for changing security settings, so keep an eye on yours to make sure they are exactly how you want them.

Have you ever been caught oversharing on social media – or been a victim of it? If so, how did you recover?