The first pregnancy appointment is one of the most important visits during a pregnancy and most wives want their spouse to be there along for the ride. While it may seem expected for a husband to attend, it may not always work out that way. The first prenatal appointment will leave an imprint on your heart and soul and your husband may regret not being there if you don’t give him a little push. Here is why it is important for your hubby to be there from the very beginning and why, in some cases, it might be smart to leave them him home.
You will need support during your entire pregnancy, and if you have a husband, ask him to be there more than usual. Remember, there are many women who have to go to it alone, so if you have the help from someone you love (and who is the father), tell them you want them to be there. He may not know how important it is to you unless you say it.
It’s nerve wracking to go through this appointment even if you don’t get to see any proof of your little peanut on a screen. Eventually, in a later appointment, you will see your baby, and when you do, you’ll have wanted your husband to be there every step of the way.
A Life Changing Experience
It may not seem ‘real’ to you or your husband until that very first pregnancy appointment. This is when both of you are hearing the confirmation of your baby’s presence from your doctor for the very first time. This is the day that your priorities, views, and life will change dramatically and you’ll want your husband right there with you.
If He Gets Queasy
If your husband gets green about the gills when you speak about your menstrual period, pap smears, and pelvic checkups, it might not be a good idea to take him to this appointment. You will most likely get a pelvic exam and if your husband tends to get nauseous even discussing these types of scenarios, leave him at home. (However, he could just wait in the waiting room and be there as mental support before you go in.)
If He Gets Nervous
If your husband has been anxious since hearing about the pregnancy, it might be a smart idea to leave him at home for this appointment. If he tends to babble or say silly things when he gets nervous, you might want to wait for the first sonogram when he can actually ‘see’ the baby and embrace the idea of having one. Sometimes the ‘idea’ of having a baby can present all sorts of reactions and some husbands may need a little time to absorb it all. Husbands need support too.
Personally, I wanted my husband there every step of the way. We were a team through my pregnancy with my son and are through life with regards to taking care of all of our kids and making sure our family life is a happy one. Sure, he couldn’t make some little appointments mid-pregnancy due to his work schedule, but they weren’t as essential as the first one, the first sonogram, and so forth. I needed and wanted him there to hold my hand on this amazing life-altering journey.
What about you? How do you feel?