The Dos and Dont’s of Arguing With ChildrenThe Dos and Dont’s of Arguing With Children
Why would you ever waste time arguing with children, right? You’re the boss. You say what goes and the little ones listen or else face the consequences. If you believe that, then you’ve yet to have children of your own and I’m here to tell you that these little people will give you a run …
Why would you ever waste time arguing with children, right? You’re the boss. You say what goes and the little ones listen or else face the consequences. If you believe that, then you’ve yet to have children of your own and I’m here to tell you that these little people will give you a run for your money every single time. They are prepared for a fight and they come armed with endless energy and a sense of entitlement that would put the Kardashians to shame. Here are a few tips to prepare for your next battle of wills.
There is nothing more frustrating for a child than an adult assuming they understand the issue without wholeheartedly listening to the child speak their piece. Children have a far different perspective on most things and cannot be expected to understand adult logic and reasoning. Let them have their say. even if they only want to tell you that Pez is a food group.
There is little more annoying than trying to get your thoughts out and being constantly interrupted by the boss. They may stumble a bit because they are emotional or they cannot find the right words but they will eventually form their argument and they need time to do it. When arguing with children, Interjecting silly points about sixteen been the legal age to drive a car will get you nowhere.
Must you really be so rigid? Could bedtime not be extended once in a while? How does two late nights a month sound when a little vegetable eating is included? The best part of compromising with kids is that if you’re really good at it you can offer them things like: ‘a turn running the vacuum’ in exchange for a drama-free bedtime. Do you see how that works? Warning: This usually only works with toddlers.
Don’t Make Threats
Seriously, never do this, unless you are fully prepared to follow through. Just this weekend, I warned my littlest one that we would be leaving the pool party immediately if she decided to act out. Then, sure enough, she decided she would see if my purse would float. Did I really want to leave my full plate of food and half glass of wine to take her home? Nope, I had made the threat and now I didn’t want to follow through. I think we all know who runs the show at my house.
You won’t always win and neither will they, and that’s okay. Your kids deserve a victory now and then and you should be mom (or dad) enough to give it to them. Remember, you are not fighting about global warming, or the failing economy here. You are trying to teach a little person how to do all of those things listed above and the best way to do that is by example. So remember, when they want ice cream for breakfast occasionally, you can counter with adding a few cheerios on top. Sometimes everybody wins.