We all hear about the effects of bullying these days and how it can severely damage a child and name calling definitely plays a big part in it. Many children learn to name call at a very young age and within their own home. It may be something they pick up from their older siblings or even from their parents who don’t realize their children are taking notes on their behavior.
Verbal abuse can have the same effect as physical abuse and can even be much more powerful when it comes to emotional damage and loss of self-esteem. If not dealt with and stopped, it can lead to a world of pain for a little child or young adult. If you want to teach your kids to be responsible for their actions and stop name calling, you will have to make some positive changes to help your child stop his or her behavior before it turns into something much worse.
Catch Yourself In Your Own Words
Children are like little sponges and they absorb everything we do as parents. If they hear daddy yell out a bad name to another driver on the road, they’ll remember it. If they hear mommy and daddy calling each other names like idiot, stupid or ugly, they will remember it. While many children learn a lot of awful names and abusive terms in the schoolyard, the intention is usually learned at home.
This doesn’t mean that all parents are to blame if their child is calling schoolmates names at school. It just means we should be aware of what we say, even if we are playfully joking around.
Ask Them How They Feel
The next time you hear your child name calling or saying something hurtful towards another child, pull them aside and ask them how they would feel if someone called them dumb, an idiot or ugly. If they have already been called names in their own life, ask them how they felt when their friend called them a bad name or their sibling put them down. When the circumstances are turned around, they may realize that they are hurting someone’s feelings and that name calling is not the right way to behave.
Teach Positivity And Kindness To Your Child
It is very important to teach your child how to say nice comments to other people and let them know that name calling isn’t an acceptable behavior. Teach your kids to say something nice to a friend or peer at school and to be kind with their words. Ask them how they feel when someone says something nice to them. Chances are they will say it felt good and they may understand the power of a nice comment.
It may not always be easy to teach kids to stop name calling if they have already adapted the behavior, but start by making it unacceptable in your home. The home is where most of a child’s behavior is learned and is the best place to make positive changes.