There are few things that married women are not going to readily share. Here’s a sneak peek into some of those things from a married women who is ready to share some truths about marriage.
We are Painfully Jealous of Our Single Friends
We want to stay up late, for reasons other than toddlers refusing to sleep. We want to get all dolled up and spend a night on the town. Yes, we can do those things, if we really want to, but once you’re married those luxuries come with a heavy dose of guilt. Long gone are the days of flying by the seat of our pants and dancing the night away. We watch our girlfriends, with their manicured hands and salon styled hair, make plans to see a show, shop for the weekend or try the new Thai restaurant downtown and we hurt a little inside. Not so long ago, we were carefree, too. For now, we settle on binging on Netflix once the kids are in bed.
We are Desperately Thankful Not to Be Single
As much as we envy the party lifestyle, at times, we are secretly relieved that we don’t feel the pressure, anymore. Hitting the latest club and hoping to meet Mr. Right was fun for a few years and then it quickly became a chore. After all, how many frogs must we kiss before we meet that so-called Prince? Even though we covet their free time, we certainly don’t which to be propelled back into that game. We’ll stay right here, in our yoga pants, watching ‘House of Cards’, thank you very much.
We Fantasize About Being Filthy Rich, a Lot
It’s not that we are disappointed with our lot in life. It’s just that sometimes the routine of daily life has us dreaming of a few luxuries that are far beyond our reach. It can really help our frame of mind to spend a few minutes in a bubble bath imagining a lakeside villa and servants to clean it. Sometimes, the luxury we dream about might even be as simple as a nap. More often than not, we imagine a staff to complete all those household tasks that can overwhelm us.
Our Husband is Not Our Best Friend
Not even close. Maybe we said those words on our wedding day because that’s the kind of thing people expect you to do, but he certainly isn’t our best friend. We need our girlfriends. They are the only people that know what we are going through and we need to vent, every so often, about the trials of marriage and family life. You can love your husband more than life itself, if you desire, but don’t mistake him for your best friend. Find your best friend outside of your marriage. Your marriage needs it. Of all the truths, this might be key.
Married Sex is Kinkier
Well, it is. There is a lot of garbage floating around out there that sex after marriage is boring or stops altogether. This couldn’t be further from the truth. There is a lot of territory to be explored once you’ve reached a comfort level with the one you love. You know what each other likes and you aren’t afraid to try new things. In fact, married sex is probably the best sex of all. Practice makes perfect, right?!