Becoming a parent for the first time is extremely overwhelming. I have three amazing step-kids that I adore, but they are all over 12, so having a new baby bundle of boy joy, well, I could hardly catch my breath. My son means the world to me and I have never known a love so strong and pure in my life.
I have been both shocked and amazed by my capabilities, and I have been tested, both mentally and physically, in every shape and form. I have learned so many things in such a short time and have seen what my strengths and weaknesses as a new mom are.
Learning How to Stay Calm
When you first have a new baby, your entire being is tested with a roller coaster of various challenges. Your child can be wailing at the top of his or her lungs, yet you are supposed to stay peaceful and calm. In my case, I could feel my back seizing up and my head throb as my little one screamed this shrill deafening noise into the hallway.
I wasn’t always feeling serene when he would scream, cry and yell, but I realized I did stay calm when something scared him, such as his first battle with a tummy virus or the first time he ran into a wall. Oh, and let’s not forget the time he was hysterical when his leg got stuck in his crib rail. When I looked into his frightened eyes, I knew I had to give him a calm look and comfort him while telling him that everything would be ok. Learning how to stay calm is a process. It takes time to acquire this skill as a new parent.
Being Aware 24/7
You have to have eyes in the back of your head now that you are a parent. Especially when they hit the toddler age and they are curious about everything and anything. My awareness has gone up to the highest of levels and I hardly miss a trick these days. Whenever your child is awake, you will never fully be able to rest with both eyes closed at the same time again. That I can guarantee.
Letting Go of a Tidy Home
I used to love having a clutter-free home, but now I have learned that having young kids means having clutter. It is part of the deal. The sooner you accept this, the easier your days as a new parent will be.
There Aren’t Enough Hours in the Day
I need about 30 hours in the day to get everything done along with working from home and taking care of my toddler. As a new parent, time management becomes one of the largest battles in your life. There is so much to do.
A Child’s Love is the Best Gift of All
I never knew this type of love existed. I love my husband to the moon and back, but this type of love is a different type of unconditional love. I cannot tell you how warm my heart feels when my son runs to me from his playgroup and wraps his arms around my legs. It is so adorable and I cannot imagine my life without this amazing love that is so new to me. He may not be able to say the words, ‘I love you Mummy’ yet, but I feel it in the way he looks at me.
What have you learned about yourself since you became a new parent? I’d love to hear!