As a parent you strive to raise your children to like who they are and to have positive self esteem. In today’sworld, it’s easy for children to compare themselves to others and to become discouraged. Instead of pulling your children’s confidence down, you desire to increase the positive feelings they have about themselves. So how do you strengthen self esteem and reinforce positive behavior? One way to do this is through praise, which is a type of positive reinforcement. Notice the cooperative, caring, and generous behaviors of your children and praise them for it! When you reward your children for their positive behaviors or actions you may increase the chances that these positive attributes will occur again. Everyone enjoys being praised! Here are some simple and effective ideas to strengthen your children’s confidence through positive reinforcement.
Catch Them Being Good
You may notice your children sharing his or her toy with another child and it brings a wide smile to your face. Don’t forget to praise your child for this behavior! When you see your children engaging in positive behavior, let them know. Be specific and tell them why you are proud of them. For example, “I am so proud of the way you shared with favorite toy with your friend. That was so kind of you.”
Rewards or Praise
Some parents reward their children with ‘prizes’ when they achieve a goal or show positive behavior. This can include something small like ice cream or something large like a trip to the zoo. Although rewards are wonderful treats to celebrate your child’s accomplishments consider using verbal praise and encouragement to stimulate intrinsic motivation. Your child may catch on and only behave in order to receive a ‘prize.’
Reinforcement and Self Esteem
Encourage your children and give them verbal praise for displaying positive characteristics. This may build their self esteem and help them see their personal strengths. If children are constantly being told they are doing things wrong or they are ‘bad’ then they may start to believe these things about themselves.
Lastly here is final reason to implement positive parenting strategies:
A meta-analysispublished in 2011 examined the association between parenting and relational aggression in children and adolescents. The article printed in Developmental Review found that positive parenting was associated with less relational aggression while harsh and psychologically controlling parenting styles were associated with more relational aggression in children. Build your child’s self esteem today by praising them for their generous actions!