Are you are expecting a little bundle of joy in the next 9 months and contemplating being a SAHM (stay-at-home-Mom) or SAHD (stay-at-home-Dad) for those tender young years? There are many pros and cons to consider before making this major parenting decision. Of course you will love spending time with your little one and there is nothing in the world that replaces those gentle soft moments in the first year of your baby’s life, but there are a few things you might want to know before becoming a stay-at-home-parent.
The Pros of Being a SAHM or SAHD
- You get to see most of the “first” moments. You will be the lucky parent who gets to experience some of the first moments of your baby’s life such as first crawl, first word and first smile.
- You’ll be supervising the entire time. Being a stay-at-home-parent is beneficial because you directly supervise your child’s care and you can make sure he or she is raised in a nurturing relaxed environment.
- You can maintain your home. When you are a stay-at-home-parent you are able to clean as you go along and as you take care of your baby. It may not always be easy to clean and wax the floors, but common areas, dishes and bedrooms will stay up to par if you have extra time in your busy day of parenting.
- Your stress levels may go down. Many parents attempt to try and balance both parenting and work outside of the home and only cause themselves more stress. Parents who stay home with their kids may have lower levels of stress as they don’t have to commute, deal with office politics and they can find serenity in those perfect moments with baby.
The Cons of Being a SAHM or SAHD
- Working from home is not as easy as you would think. As a new mom that works and takes care of baby, getting work hours in during the day is a massive challenge. It is possible, but it takes a lot of re-arranging of your daily tasks.
- It can be isolating. Stay-at-home-parents tend to be more isolated because there aren’t other parents just conveniently up the block. If you don’t have means of transportation, it can really be lonely.
- Loss of identity. There is a risk of losing ‘yourself’ when staying at home all day raising babies and kids. Some parents may lose the motivation they once had in the workplace and may suffer from lack of confidence.
- Loss of energy. Sometimes being a stay-at-home-parent can drain you of your daily energy. This may result in low motivation, a decrease in your marriage romance and you may experience a drop in mood all together.
Nothing is more special than spending your days with your little one, but it is a good idea to know what you are getting yourself into before you make this major life change and commitment. Don’t be fooled, stay at home parents have one of the hardest job roles out there.