I hate talking about my sex life, because I don’t have much of one right now. There, I said it. It’s the sad truth, but our children have put a major damper on our personal time. Between soccer practices, poor toddler sleeping habits, late night writing sessions, school obligations and just regular old life, there hasn’t been much time for us.
Each night we literally fall asleep as soon as our heads hit the pillow. Then it’s not more than two hours later that our two year old calls for one of us. And somehow in the early morning hours, he’ll end up in our bed and neither of us will even remember how that happened. It’s all a fog. We’re tired, exhausted, wiped out.
But my husband and I are trying our best to reconnect knowing that intimacy is an all important, and absolutely vital, part of our relationship.
You know how they always say, that you’re a better mom (or dad) when you take care of yourself first. Well, it’s true. You need rest, food, exercise, and of course, sex. The last one might not seem like a necessity but it is indeed. It’s a way of reconnecting, tuning in to your emotions and remembering why you fell in love in the first place.
So what have we done so far to make things work better in the bedroom? We’ve put the little things on the back burner. If the sink is full of dishes one night, so be it. If we answer those emails in the morning instead of right now, it’s okay. And our bedroom is officially a phone free zone. I can’t tell you how much this last bit helps. Staring into a phone at the end of a long day is the ultimate mood killer.
It’s worth the effort that’s for sure, because when we are together it reminds us how we got into this whole mess in the first place. We love each other! And I wouldn’t want to share this crazy life with anyone else.
Moms, how do you work to put your relationship first?