Most parents want to be good parents and use positive parenting techniques when it comes to raising their children, but some parents can become what they call “helicopter parents” if they go overboard. The term “helicopter parent” is a term used when parents sweep in to rescue their children when the child gets easily frustrated over things like tying their own shoe, washing a dish or making their bed in the morning.
There are some things that parents should never try to do for their kids as it may prevent them from learning essential life survival skills.
Speak For Them
If a parent becomes their child’s voice in every scenario where the child is asked to speak, the child will not be able to develop a healthy level of confidence in their own abilities and decisions.
Parents should allow their child to develop their own communication skills and learn how to answer when someone asks them a question. This will allow confidence to grow within the child when it comes to them socializing and talking with authority figures throughout their adolescent and teenager years.
Do Not Choose Their Interests
Many parents feel that if they throw their child into a bunch of recreational activities that they will enjoy it. Often children become too overwhelmed and end up quitting everything from sports and art, to karate and ballet classes. While it is great to encourage a child to get into activities, to be social and to play on teams, children should be allowed to discover their own interests and grow from there.
Do Not Do Their Homework
This is a definite no-no. Parents can help their child with their homework, but doing it for them not only prevents them from learning, it can also lead to a child slacking at school. If a child knows Mom or Dad will come to the rescue when their science project is due the next morning, they will never learn what it means to achieve goals.
Do Not Do Their Chores and Responsibilities
The reason why children are given chores is so they can start learning about managing money and responsibility at a young age. Chores are done and allowance of some sort is usually given. If a parents asks a child to do something like clean up their mess on the staircase or in their room, but then the parent cleans it up out of frustration, it is teaching kids that they don’t have to fulfill their responsibilities within the family home.
These four issues can lead to a road of irresponsible decisions and actions, low self-esteem and a long list of unfortunate events. If parents follow a path of positive parenting and step back and allow their child to grow, learn responsibility and achieve greatness with their own hard work, decisions and actions, they will have a higher chance of survival when out in the big world.