There are many ways you can recognize whether you have a child with low self esteem or a child with confidence. Many children suffer from low self esteem during their elementary and high school years and sometimes it just can’t be prevented. In general, kids are unsure of themselves as they make their way throughout this big world and if a negative force comes along and tells them that they are doing things the wrong way or tells them they are stupid, they are bound to lose faith in themselves and their actions.
Parents wish their children would see the talent they see in them and value their strengths. It isn’t always that easy as once a child is exposed to the outside world. They are succumbed to all sorts of comments and actions from their peers, bullies and even adults that may be negative to them. They may be exposed to teasing, put downs and critical comments, and the only way you can tell if your child is suffering from low self esteem is to look out for these things below.
They Are Pessimistic
A child with low self esteem may speak negatively about themselves, the world and everything in it. They may find that being dark and negative helps them hide the gentle soul that has been hurt deep down inside. If your child is constantly turning everything and anything into a negative thought, they may be suffering with low self esteem.
They Stop Trying New Things
Kids that have low self esteem are worried to try anything new because they have a fear of embarrassing themselves or not knowing what to do. They may stop going to friend’s birthday parties, end their favorite sport, or not want to go out all together because they fear they will only do wrong. They may even stop trying to make better grades at school if they fear that they might fail at everything they do.
They Are Their Own Bully
They may have been told it in the schoolyard or a bully might have put them down. A child that calls themselves “stupid,” “fat,” or “ugly” is suffering in a big way. They believe the messages that they have heard and are now stuck in the cycle of self hate.
What Parents Can Do
It is not a lost cause. There are some things that parents can do if they have a child with low self esteem and many ways they can help their child build confidence in themselves. They can look for opportunities to praise their child when they do a good job. Laughing at yourself when you make silly mistakes can set a great example for your child and help them laugh things off too.
Parents can also offer a positive way of thinking when their child speaks negatively. If parents also allow kids to figure out the solutions to their own problems it can be a great confidence builder. Kids need to feel confident in their own decisions and actions. By stepping back sometimes, they can figure out their own way to feel more secure about their decision making skills.