Backtalk, being rude and having a disrespectful attitude is never something parents like to hear when it comes to their little angel, but it happens to all families. Let your child know it is truly disrespectful and unacceptable at home and in public. It can be quite shocking when you hear your child blurt out a swear word or say something unkind or rude for the first time. You may wonder where your child has gone and who the child standing in front of you is some days.
Our kids are constantly exposed to a large variety of media sources, both online and offline, that offer them a long list of rude phrases, swear words and a massive vocabulary of attitude. It’s almost impossible to keep your child from learning any bad words or phrases as they are everywhere. It’s best to know how to deal with the backtalk and a bad attitude before it happens so you are well prepared.
Decide on Consequences Beforehand
Know how you would like to react if your child talks back to you. Have a little list of things that you will do when your child says something rude to you or anyone else. This is not a punishment list, but rather a consequence list. Things like taking away their video game privileges for day or week may work, or not allowing them to go play in the park or attend a friend’s sleepover that weekend. Figure out consequences that match the age range your child falls into.
Set Your Limit and Stick With It
The first time your child backtalks or says something rude explain to your child that it is unacceptable by you and everyone else. Tell them that when they back talk to you or anyone else it is not nice and that there will always be a consequence. Always follow through with the limit you have set. Even the first time they talk back to you with rudeness. Only then, they will take you seriously.
Respond with a Consequence
Every time you hear your child swear or say something hurtful to someone else (including you), respond with immediate consequence. Avoid saying, “I’ll figure out what your punishment is and let you know.” Get out your consequence list and act immediately, otherwise your child may not take you seriously and keep acting out to see how many boundaries they can break.
Do Not Explain Your Actions
When you set limits and tell your child what is inappropriate in the home and in public, say it once. Make sure they are actively listening and have absorbed your words when it comes to backtalk. After that, never explain yourself when you give a consequence. Your child should only have to hear your expectations once and expect that they will have consequences every time they step out of line or be rude.