Do you suffer from ‘new mom‘ anxiety? Many new mothers and even moms that have been in the “mom and kid” scene for years experience anxiety when it comes to meeting other moms, joining playgroups with their little one and getting involved in their community. Maybe you have just moved to a new neighborhood or perhaps you stepped away from the scene for a while due to other responsibilities such as work or family issues. Whatever the case is, try not to worry too much. Take comfort in the fact that we’ve all been there at least once.
Becoming a mom is a roller coaster ride of new responsibilities and challenges, and sometimes making new friends isn’t always the first thing on our list. If you feel anxious, but feel as though you want to get out there with your little girl or boy and connect with other moms, check out some of these tips for success.
If you tend to get nervous when meeting new people or walking into a new group, the best way is to start very small. When you walk into a new playgroup with your little one, do not feel as though you have to start chatting with everyone. Keep one thing on your mind and one thing only. You are doing it for your little one. You are helping them connect with others like themselves.
The playgroup was put in place for the babies and kids. So be friendly yes, but focus on why you are there. This will help you get through the icebreaker period and after some time in the group and with a few welcoming smiles, you may actually warm up to it and other moms.
Don’t Sweat “Any” Stuff
If you drive for a half an hour to take your toddler to a group or a mommy gathering, and then you cannot make it in the door, don’t sweat it. I’ve been there and done that. It’s not easy to be in a comfortable bubble at home with your baby and partner, and then have to push yourself into a room full of strangers. The next time you attempt to go, take a deep breath, and stroll you and your little one in.
Don’t hesitate too long or anxiety will take over. Moms are in a tribe of their own and usually try to support each other. Chances are the group members will give you a warm welcome, so take that deep breath, and smile. You never know, you might actually make some new friends.
Join a FaceBook Group
This is a popular move when it comes to getting to know other moms and getting involved. Join a Facebook mom group that offers advice on what to do in your community, where to go with your little ones, and where you can meet other moms. If you start responding to posts and asking your own questions in the group, you might feel a bit more comfortable approaching groups offline. You might get to know another mom online and plan to meet with her for coffee. Then you can go to the groups together, which would make that initial “walking in” experience a lot less stressful.
Keep in mind that most moms want to be supportive to other moms and especially new moms. You might make lifelong friends from some of these groups, which can mean lifelong friends for your little one as well. It’s a win-win situation. Just breathe.